Alice
04 January 2009
 
There are those who have to stand in the gap on behalf of loved ones. A family member is extremely ill and suffering with no relief. You feel so helpless and heartbroken as you watch your family member struggling through illness. The more the doctors administer medical assistance, the more you see it is not taking effect and your family member is experiencing the emotions and physical oppressions of illness.
 
Each time you brought them home from the hospital, you had a hope that this time they will make it, only to find within days you are returning to the hospital and the condition has worsen. There’s nothing worse than to see a father, mother, spouse or child suffering between life and death. The day comes when the doctors tell you there is nothing else they can do and your loved one is about to pass away.
 
You make the most of the remaining time you have together, preparing your heart for that hour. You think you are prepared, but no one is ever prepared to never see your mom, dad, spouse, child, family member or close friends again. No one is ever prepared for the emptiness that death brings. Every human being is an individual and an individual can never be replaced.
 
When you have stood by your family member from beginning to end there is one thing you must not do to yourself after the funeral. You must not torment yourself with thoughts that “maybe you could have done more”. If you have truly stood from beginning to end taking care of your family member, then you have done all that is humanly possible to do. This is the realization you must come to or else your emotional state will be worsened after the death of your loved one then during the time they were still alive suffering through their illness.
 
When the end came, the Chaplain at the hospital said it is not “do not resuscitate, it is allowing natural death” and God was taking her home. Now you keep telling yourself you should have coded her and pump her with more drugs and maybe she would have turned around and pulled through one more time. It that needed to be done, the doctors would have advised it. She was not newly ill; she had been suffering for years.
 
Your father and your mother and your grandparents did not want you to move her to ICU and code her and pump her will all sorts of things. Turn your thinking around.
If you had coded her she would have been in a state of physical torture.
Stop condemning yourself and begin to be grateful to yourself that you had the courage to put her first and do what she needed.
 
You saved her from a horrifying end by letting her go. She was depending on you to put an end to her torment and let her go. You didn't know it because it was one of those”silent" sounds that only she and God could hear. A "positive" silent sound is the sound of the hearts cry. Only God can allow death to come. If He allowed death to come, it means your mother was praying to go.
 
She's in peace now. She's in heaven with your dad and all her relatives and friends.
Do you know she is actually sitting with her mom and dad talking and laughing?
She doesn't remember the pain. She's been renewed and restored to perfection.
She is in perfect health. There is no sickness in heaven.
This is true; it is the reality of the truths of the bible.
 
Turn your thinking around. Thank God it’s over. You stopped the suffering.
You rescued her and released her into the arms of the angels.
These angels escorted her first to Jesus.
Afterward these angels escorted her to a room.
The angels opened the door of the room and said "Alice, enter the room".
She walked into the room and her mom & dad and husband put their arms around her and said "Welcome Home, we've been waiting for you.” Then she saw all her other relatives and friends she knew on the earth waiting to greet her.
 
By the way, she didn't recognize your dad because in heaven there is no yelling or cursing allowed. Phil has been changed into perfect behavior. (Ha-ha)  
She kept asking your dad, where's Phil? I don't know you. You're not Phil. (ha-ha)
He said yes I am Phil. Come; let me show you my house in heaven.
 
So Alice took a walk with Phil to his heavenly house even though she didn't believe it was really him. As soon as she reached his house, she knew it was her Phil. There were chickens, goats, a horse and every other animal God created on Phil's heavenly property. Alice grabbed Phil and hugged him and said, "Oh Phil, it's really you....
 
And they are living happily ever after. This is not a fairy tale.
This is the truth of the end of our earthly life and beginning of our heavenly life.
 
The sign on their front door does not say "The Lamont’s"
The sign on the entrance reads "Noah's Ark".
It’s the only place God could fit all of your dad's animals that he had in his lifetime.
They have a large apartment upstairs.

In Loving Memory of Alice Kazlauskis Lamont:
October 18,1923 - July 11, 2008

Alice was born in Freehold, New Jersey
She married Philip Lamont and they lived on a farm.
After Phil passed away, Alice remained in Freehold for the rest of her life.
She can never be replaced and she will always be remembered with love.